Thought for the day....(maybe two)

Greetings,

Memorial Day is here, many people have been enjoying a long weekend with camping and BBQ’s. However it is important to remember what this day is really about. Memorial Day is to honor and remember those who have died in military service. Make sure you take a moment to think about and thank those who have served our country. It is a time to honor the men and women who died in all wars.

I was not in the fun and frolic mode but I must share something I found to be inspirational. While attending a Memorial Service I had the opportunity to witness something you just don’t see every day. At least you generally don’t see it in my world. At this Memorial Service I saw this wonderful man supporting his ex-wife. She had lost her Father, and being an only child this wonderful man Larry came in support of her. He sat next to her in the front row. She was safely nestled between Larry and her son. Certainly Larry came because he loved Wayne. Certainly he came in support of Travis, but he was supporting his ex-wife. It was really a thing of beauty. As it is not in just these moments that he shows up in support of her, he will pick up her medication for her at the pharmacy, he will take her out for lunch-and they did not even have a child together. (I must say he certainly did many years of parenting). Most people can’t even co-parent together without drama. This couple maintains some kind of friendship, some kind of special bond that we could all learn from. I found it to be very inspiring!

“It is rare, it seems, that couples are able to hold onto a friendship and remain close while still moving on after the divorce. I am always impressed when I see couples who manage to stay friends, as it takes strength in character and an understanding of the bigger picture to rise above the hurt”(Meyers, 2011). I saw strength and character and it was a thing of beauty. Every couple has their own relationship dance. All you have to do is change your part in the dance.

Life is sticky and messy sometimes all we can do is try … attempt to make the best out of what time we have here on earth with the people we love.

Love and Light

Agoraphobia Gurl

Reference

Meyers PsyD, Seth (2011). Stay Friends after Divorce: Why, Coping, & Moving On

Avoiding friendship with your ex is often about denial. Psychology Today. Retrieved from: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-is-2020/201106/stay-friends-after-divorce-why-coping-moving