It’s Complicated

It’s Complicated

Greetings-

“One of the options for "Relationship Status" on Facebook. Refers to a couple in an ambiguous state between "friends" and "in a relationship". May also be used to indicate dissatisfaction with an existing relationship.

If someone changes their status from "In a Relationship" to "It's Complicated", expect them to be "Single" and "Looking for Random Play" soon.” (Urban Dictionary)

A Facebook relationship status, where an individual is not happy with their current relationship, and is willing to tell the world how frustrated they are with their significant other or lack thereof.

This can also mean that one is involved in multiple relationships. Or their significant other is a whore and complicated the relationship, but being with several people at once

Well how's your girlfriend Jim?

"She’s ok, I just wish she weren't dating three other guys while dating me too." It's complicated (Urban Dictionary).

It’s complicated - any relationship that's not OK.

Who ever said this relationship thing is easy? Life is full of complications.

“When people feel trapped by their current circumstances, but still do not want to ruin their relationship, cyberspace may offer a parallel world in which things are better. Time spent in that world can help them preserve their actual world, while not giving up on having exciting, even emotional experiences. Living within the two worlds is not easy, however, and may become increasingly risky when people do not realize the limitations of each” (Ben-Zeev, 2008).

I am really simply in awe of the fact that I am up in the middle of the night writing this-Dumb Ass.

“People, consciously or not, consider their online sexual relationships as real—they experience psychological states similar to those typically elicited by offline relationships. Accordingly, cybersex is not merely a conversation about sex, but a form of sexual encounter involves experiences typical of other encounters, such as sexual arousal, masturbation, orgasm, and satisfaction. Indeed, people consider cybersex to have a high degree of psychological reality—but many do not consider it to be morally real (Ben-Zeev, 2008).

It is morally real and morally wrong.

In the online realm I have used every relationship status possible in order to be left alone. I have been married. I have been a lesbian. These options seem to entice more so than simply being single. Like really Mr. Straight man if I were in fact a lesbian do you really think you are going to convert me? Dumb ass.

I have disengaged from the IM and the chat option. I obviously have a Facebook account. My Facebook account would indicate that I am married with children or grand-babies-probably both. If I have grand-babies, chances are I have children. Nothing more flattering than someone thinking I have a two year old. Hmmmm-maybe that is not flattery. Perhaps they just think I am insane (ha-ha says Agoraphobia Gurl)? On the surface I would appear to be happy. Guess what-aside from a few financial issues and this whole agoraphobia thing I am pretty happy. Life is pretty good. My life is filled with love. My life is filled with pretty amazing people.

“Sexual addiction is best described as a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and acts. Like all addictions, its negative impact on the addict and on family members increases as the disorder progresses” (Herkov, 2013).

Just something to think about…

If your relationship “status” has read- “It’s complicated” for over 10 years obviously something is missing from your life. If you are cheating on your spouse, obviously something is missing from your life. If you are staying in this relationship “because of the kids”-you might just be insane. When and or if they find out you have in fact cheated you have pretty much ruined them, after all you are the role model for your children. We want to role model healthy relationships and behavior. What are they seeing in the house right now? From this vantage point it doesn’t seem like they are witnessing anything close to loving or normal. When all is said and done, young or old-when you do divorce it is going to hurt them. Really it is never going to be easy or great, divorce isn’t.

I just want to point out MY LIFE IS PERFECTLY FINE-everything is peachy.

I really don’t care generally speaking about anyone’s business, I am all about harm none and being happy. Which brings me to the point. BE HAPPY.

“The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it's all that matters.” ― Audrey Hepburn

Love and Light-

Agoraphobia Gurl

Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.” ― Dr. Seuss

Reference

Ben-Zeev, A. (2008) Is Chatting Cheating? Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com

Herkov, M. (2013). What is Sexual Addiction? Retrieved from: http://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-sexual-addiction/000748

 Urban Dictionary (2010) http://www.urbandictionary.com/